When you come from a dysfunctional family, your friends become like family. It's always been that way. I've always relied on my friends to be my support system (poor bastards). Never since I have had a choice in the matter have I ever fell back on my family.
Maybe that's because I can't relate to them. Maybe it's because my mom is emotionally disconnected from me and always has been, even before the big gay bomb dropped.
Who knows, but it is what it is.
Some friends have come and gone over the years. At one point or another I spent a lot of time with them and then they were gone. Either distance caused the detachment or we just grew apart... or grew up. Who knows.
The ones that have persisted, have for a reason.
I have a small handful of friends that I've known a very long time: Bobbie, Khadijah, Kat, Tina, Val and Katie, mainly. From Val who I've known for 7 years all the way up to Khadijah who I've known since I was a child. I love these people dearly. We have been through so much laughter, tears, heartache, joy and accomplishment over the years that these people are as close to me as someone really can get.
Not everyone makes the "close friend" cut, though. There are a ton of people that I'm happy to see if I run into them, but I don't make any real effort to be around them and I'm good with that. A lot of time there are personality differences that keep them from advancing to a closer place for me. But hey, not everyone is meant to be your best bud... so there it is.
In the past 12 months or so, though, we've made a slew of new friends. It's amazing to me how quickly these new friends have become a big part of my life.
We have spent so much time together lately and I am so happy about it. Most of the above "old-timers" included but new people have been added and it just feels like a big family.
We have a lot of plans for this summer that I'm so completely excited about. This weekend kicks it off with an outing to celebrate Kat and Tina's bazillionth year anniversary on Saturday and then a bunch of us are heading up to NYC Pride and are marching in the parade on behalf of Pepsi (they are donating to the Center in exchange for our frail bodies being dragged through the streets of NYC lol). So if you're there look for the Pepsi group who will be handin' out sheeit.
Anyway, my point is that I have no idea what driving forces pull people in and out of our lives... but right now I am thankful for those that I count amongst my friends -- both old and new.
You each bring your own little light into my life. And I guess all this blabber was just my way of saying thank you for that.
Well, that's enough gushing for me.
Happy Pride Month folkz!
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Friends
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deep thoughts with Tina-cious,
friends,
LGBT
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I feel the same way about our friends (old and new). I'm really looking forward to this weekend!
xox
Funny, I was thinking about writing a post about friends too. I've been thinking about the levels of friendship from the best buds who you can call in the middle of the night, to friends I only know from their blogs. So I just wanted to say how much I appreciate the thoughtful and supportive comments you have left me, and how you may never know how much some of those comments have bouyed me through some shakey issues. Thank you.
Even on vacation I had to check in and read ya. I guess I like punishment. lol I sure hope we get counted amongst your friends list because we surely count you guys. Happy Pride month!!;~)
Ah, old friends are family.
The fact that we haven't met is nonsense!
:-D
Feel the same way about you and how people come and into our lives for a reason. Glad you came into mine.
This was a beautiful tribute to your friends. I've been thinking a lot about friends lately and how my life is being shaken up with changes in that dept.
I LOVE that picture of you two!!
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